Welcome to the first week of my new summer series Enduring All Things. First of all, I’ll like to thank all my loyal readers for your patience while I navigated through some things that I believe have a birth in this series.
I plan to question relationships, faith, trust and God in a different and vulnerable way that I have not quite questioned before. The beauty of the place I am in now when it comes to relationships is that there are things about me that are coming to light like they never have before.
My current relationship is why I decided to begin this series. My relationship is merely the beginning and has already faced many ups and downs so many it is a miracle either of us has hung on this long, and even now I feel as though we could be experiencing the greatest test yet.
A little over two years ago I began to examine relationships, marriage, and the role of a wife in a way I had never done before. In the beginning, marriage and relationships to me were like a story, a perfectly crafted movie that had a beginning, a middle and some kind of happy ending. I knew that relationships and marriages end, but I also knew that there were two kinds of marriages, “marriages that God put together, and marriages that people put together.” Something I never realized until I heard that quote from Toure Roberts after watching his sermon, “5 Keys to identifying your soulmate“. However, what we do not realize is God is interested in our love lives, but the question for me still remains, “How do you know God brought you together or not?” Does everything go perfectly every single day?
As for me, it has been a roller coaster ride from the beginning and today I’ll be lying if I said my faith in my relationship has not been tested even in this short time. I always thought that when God did bring me together with the right man, things would go perfectly, he would treat me like a queen and he would be my king, and we would go on to build an unshakeable kingdom. Rather my story becomes the beginning or the end I have already discovered that two things have remained as I have endured through many challenges, that God is constantly in my situation and the road to relationships and marriage isn’t always smooth, and maybe it was not designed to be.
I chose the title Enduring All Things because that is what marriage and relationships are to me. Endure is defined as, “remain in existence; last”. I believe that at every point in our lives our faith will be tested and I can say the truth to this now especially in my relationship. I have felt my faith tested on two occasions when my mother passed away, and whenever I am in a relationship. The test for me remains the same, do I have the ability to remain in existence, to last and keep the faith even when my entire existence is crashing down around me?
Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. – James 1:2-4