Practical Love

Most people would argue that they want unconditional love, but we have not been taught to love unconditionally, and even worst we have been conditioned to love with many conditions.

It is not as simple as saying that you will love someone forever, unconditionally regardless of what may happen. Everyone knows the marriage and divorce rates in America and around the world. However, the debate is why are marriage rates so low and divorce rates so high when generations before us it was the complete opposite. lovequote

I am by no means professional analysts for relationship statistics and this is completely my own personal opinion and take on things. Love is has become practical. In a world that is constantly changing the definition of a long-term relationship has changed and so have the prerequisites for every relationship. I read a book about marriage that more people are marrying for love, and love cannot sustain a successful marriage. You can love anyone, you can be in love with them, and you can even want to spend your life without but no matter how you cut it if you get married for love your marriage will end for this reason and this reason only (in my opinion) because you will find to love someone unconditionally for the rest of your life does not mean that you need to only be with them for the rest of your life.

relationship-buildingThis is the part that most people seem to miss before signing that contract they call a marriage license. I do not believe that generations before people married for love and that is what made a marriage last because honestly, I do not think people realize that you do not truly love someone on the day you get married nor on the days leading up to marriage, it is on the days long after you get married. This is why people say, the first year is always the hardest. Love is a practicality, a prerequisite of a relationship or marriage but so is friendship, that uncomfortable zone in which most people avoid or leap over altogether; but how can you enter into a relationship or marriage with someone you do not fully know. It is after you have entered into this relationship you find out that person likes, dislikes, how they handle stress, how they handle your stress.

Practical is defined as, “willing to see things as they really are and deal with them B3785 Love is Patient, Love is Kind Journal-OLsensibly.” Love is not a fairy tale like Disney has so wonderfully fabricated over the years, love is not for the faint of heart and that is what people do not understand. Love has to be seen as it really is and that is seeing the people you love as they really are and deal with that if you cannot then you are seeking after the wrong things.

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